Chapter 8.  Understanding Sexuality, Part 1

I. Psychosexual Development in Young Adulthood

1.      Parent input:innoculation theory ofsex ed:once isenough;but child req freq boost

2.      Mom responsible for sex ed: child learn sex issue men no talk unless problem

3.      influence on use condoms:  parental communication does have much impact

4.      strong bond w/ parents:lessens teen’s dep on peer approval & bonding of sex rel

5.      peer pressure:have sex, even if not satisfy; lg # make decision age 14 or younger

6.      sexual script: set of expectations of how one is to behave sexually as male or fem

a.      girls learn no look genitals:no explore&not know much about; worry vag odor

b.      women learn be sex passive: should want love;men want sex, is for them

c.       men should know what women want:even if fem no tell;man must arouse

d.      fem no talk @ sex easily:taught not to since shouldn’t have strong sex feel

e.      Men’s needs come first: his desire over hers, his orgasm over hers

f.        Fem learn only 1 way for orgasm: vaginal from penile stimulation

g.      Tenderness/compassion no masculine:men no express doubts;be assertive

h.      Man initiates sex&gives fem orgasm: real man not need fem tell what like

i.        Man machine wanting sex:no matter what he is doing, wants&does it

j.        All phys contact lead to sex: touching first step; no phys pleasure except

k.      Kissing, hugging, all erotic contact leads to intercourse:  sex=intercourse

l.        Orgasm:more orgasms, better the sex;man failure if not;prob if req clit stim

7.      Race dif in attitudes: black sex attitudes>liberal v. white, although both become >

8.      gender dif: fem seen>promiscuous than men if have several concurrent partners

9.      %Lesbians: 13% of fem had orgasms w/ other women, but 1-3% identify lesbian

10.  %gay(Kinsey):20-37% men orgasm w/male,10% predom gay 3 years;4% exclusiv

11.  %gay studies 1970-1990: 5-7%men sex contact men;4.5% exclusively gay

12.  homoeroticism: attraction to members of the same sex

13.  coming out: publicly acknowledging gayness

14.  homophobia: irrational fear of gays/lesbians, but not all anti-gay clinically phobic

15.  anti gay prejudice:replaces”homophobia”; unreasonable or biased but not nec fear

a.      3 stages:1 offensive language, 2 discrimination, 3 violence (Allport 1958)

b.      Matthew Shepard&Billy Jack Gaither:killers target,brutalize since gay

c.       Hate crimes:1/7 based on sex orient;1/5 homos punched,kicked,beaten,hit

d.      Threats:44% of gays face;94% victimization:verb abuse,chased,spat on

e.      3 causes: 1 insecure @ sexuality; 2 fundementalist rel;3 ignorance of homo

   16 Bisexual %: Janus&Janus 1993: 5%men 3%fem identify; other survey only 1%

            a. stigmatized: by both homos and heteros because reject both homo and hetero

II. Psychosexual Development in Middle Adulthood

1.      passionate intensity wains:due habit,conflict,work, children; redefine as intimacy

2.      sexuality becomes less central: communicate, intimacy,share interests greater

3.      neutering: by age 50 fem  seen by society as go thru meno;must reject stereotypes

4.      sex diff approach 50:men fear loss sexuality but not attractiveness;fem opposite

a.       fantasies: <effective for arousal, but phys stim remain effective men,fem

b.      sex responsiveness: grow in fem until 30’s/early 40’s;same level to 60’s+;

      in men, declines from 20’s;by 50, ready requires >time,stimulation,<firm

III. Psychosexual Development in Later Adulthood

1.      fear impotence: aged men worry;1study--31% elderly men able to have erection

2.      fem >masculine: regarded as age; younger fem “beautiful”; older fem “handsome”

3.      frequency of sex: ½ over 60, 24% over 76, had intercourse prev month;avg 4 times

a.       gender, race: no differences

   4   decrease sex after age 75: significant because health—heart disease,etc.--interferes