Basic Guidelines For Effective Parenting

Really Listen. Listening means understanding and communicating by giving undivided attention and by encouraging the expression of feelings. Have real conversations when you both listen and respond/react to each other.

Encourage Family Activities. A sense of belonging is developed by doing things together such as social activities as well as household chores.

Discipline Constructively. It is important to give clear directions and to enforce limits on behavior. Use a positive approach “Do” rather than “Don’t.”

Be Consistent. Discuss and post house rules. If they change, announce the change.

Be Clear. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Be Reasonable and Understanding. Be willing to hear the child’s point of view.

Be Flexible. Bargaining is an effective tool. Consider the individual personality.

Be Authoritative. Trust your own common sense. If you are not sure, announce the need for some time to think. Then do not hesitate or be indecisive.

Develop Mutual Respect. Model basic trust by being honest and sincere yourself. Insist that all family members treat each other with respect. Apologize when you err.

Attend To Your Needs. Maintain your individuality and cultivate your own interests and talents. Treat yourself well, thus avoiding the martyr syndrome.

Maintain a Sense of Humor. Finding humor in life’s experiences is an important aspect of personal adjustment.

Your OEA is here to help

Sometimes talking to a professional can provide the additional perspective, knowledge or skills needed to improve or solve a problem. If you’re troubled by a parenting or family issue, why not call the Office of Employee Assistance (OEA) and speak to an OEA professional? Your OEA is always available to help you and your dependents with any personal, family or work-related concern you may have.